In Germany they send Urns via Post

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The postal service in Germany is very reliable and on time. German efficiency, hey?

What is it with an efficient country like Germany that has a well working ID system to find anyone’s relatives, anywhere who is registered in their system, to then not bother finding next of kin of a loved one who died?! Not finding a mother who’s address and phone number has been the same since 30+ years, safely tucked in the ID system, but she couldn’t be found?!

And what is it with this highly sophisticated system to then cremate my brother without our consent?!!

And what qualitative organized people, after they finally find one family member, then give the message of my brother’s death via email?!

And what highly educated people of this efficient country later sends his urn via post?!!

Where did they lose their emotional intelligence?! Did they ever have any?! What school taught them the art of stepping on dignity like this?!

I received a second letter recently from the court in my family’s town that deals with inheritance issues, since my father died in March this year. The court asked me again to provide contact details of my brother, whose ashes are in this urn because of the last will of our dad that is registered and stored with this court. I have decided since this efficient system didn’t bother to find and inform us in time of my brother’s death and then just cremated him and allow a system that sends urn via postal service, that this efficient system needs to do their homework properly to find my brother. Dead.

TK Urn


An Urn is an even Smaller Domain


An Urn is an even smaller Domain

Not able to contain

A Heart once beating

A Life so beaten down to diminished Pain


A Rock is a restricted Lot

Yet better than a Stone

A Poor Man’s Plot

Forgotten not, and yet it stands alone


To Him who at His cumbrous Door

Bestowed His final Breath

Circumstances know we not

Nor Estimated Death.


— ©LateNightGirl


Inspired by Emily Dickinson’s poem:


A Coffin — is a small Domain,

Yet able to contain

A Citizen of Paradise

In it diminished Plane.


A Grave — is a restricted Breadth —

Yet ampler than the Sun —

And all the Seas He populates

And Lands He looks upon


To Him who on its small Repose

Bestows a single Friend —

Circumference without Relief —

Or Estimate — or End —


— Emily Dickinson


TK candles

Thomas, I’m sorry we’ve let you down



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