… like nothing ever happened, and whatever happened is just normal.

Since my brother died and the way I had to learn it, not having had ANY support, and later my dad dying, then my mum and I couldn’t bury her during 2. lock-down, and everything in-between, I had to be strong and continue to be alone. Relatives, friends, work … were used to me just getting on with it and just left me alone.

Pret started to target me in hopes I leave. My story with Pret is scattered all over my blog. And someone is copying all my writings without the thought of copyright in mind. As well as WordPress staff checking any new post I publish, as Pret must have contacted them.

“Friends” turned their backs very soon, and then wondered why I was “flipping out”, starting to drink. Everyone sends you away to therapists to avoid having to be with a “friend”.

And even in the midsts of being completely traumatised and out of my mind, people still just want something from you. It’s incredible the depth and length of carelessness and selfishness we live in, in this Western society.

I have been through hell more than once since my brother died, on several levels, situations, circumstances. And BECAUSE I dealt with it strong and not bothering anyone, everyone just gaslit me that this is normal, just so they avoid having to deal with the immense burden, losses and pain I was confronted with.

I am strong. But I allow myself to not be strong. And whoever can’t handle that needs to stay away. And I stay away from the wrong crowd.

And those who started to support, I pushed away because I didn’t know who to trust, or people said they’d do something, even offering it, but then didn’t do it. How would a bereaved, traumatised person handle broken promises?

People love it when I have break-downs, it gives them the excuse to say “you’re hurting me, stay away”, while they’ve never been at my side in the first place.

It’s the society we live in. It will be the society I die in.

I will never be normal. I tried.

For my family.

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I worked at Pret A Manger and survived systemic workplace bullying during bereavement that involved HR, the top leadership, HQ and even the now “retired” former CEO Clive Schlee. I declined 4 settlement offers if I am silent about my ordeal. But I rather speak out to help others. For an overview of important blog entries of my experience with Pret, please visit “My Ordeal with Pret A Manger”. The little arrow to the right next to each heading will lead directly to the post.
An incomplete list on what other Pret staff say about Pret’s bullying environment: Caught in the Act Bullying at Pret.
I tell my story for the first time verbally in below audio player interview on a podcast by The Adam Paradox, and wrote two articles in the Scottish Left Review and was mentioned by the BBC.

Please also see the MEDIA page for more.

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